Messages between Selina2 and tookat
yeah....I would say you were right about the rejection being the work of the higher power. We are protected unless we have a HUGE lesson to learn, and then..hooboy. I lived in a 25 year emotionally abusive marriage that had put me through regular cycles of severe depression until I became sick with CFS and Fibromyalgia. My becoming sick was what got me into feldenkrais and into seeing alt health speacialists. I started taking care of myself...and that sent him into another codependent relationship..and me into therapy, because I woke up and vowed to put an end to all and any neurotic behavior in my life. It was wierd...he left and I had a flashback that was like a film strip flashing before my eyes Selina. I saw every incident of emotional abuse in the marriage flash before my eyes. My reaction was to start laughing at the "eureka! that is why I am so depressed!" The next day I started interviewing therapists. The one I chose was a no nonsense woman who used just as much behavior mod as she did traditional therapy. She would not let me whine about the abuse without calling me out on the fact that all abusive relationships are a type of codependency. She always asked each time I came up with a new revelation..."and what was your part in it?" I really thought he was my soulmate too. It turned out he and I had shared many, many lifetimes together...often as sister and brother.
That was so sweet! Still working on the soulmate part - hit a little (okay, a big!) bump in the road last year... But I believe rejection means protection coming from a higher power; if it's not to be it's better to find out sooner than later. And I hope you had an absolutely magnificent Valentine's Day!! *hugs!*
I had some past lives that ended poorly, but none of my direct ancestors chose to take that path. Some may have been killed in religious pogroms against the Jews and by the spanish Inquisition. Mom's family migrated quite a bit settled in Spain after the first Diaspora from Jerusalem settled in Spain, fled Spain and joined another branch of the family in Budapest...and from there into the countryside as they were wine growers. Fortunately, Grandfather, who was more interested in timber followed the call of some other family members to migrate to the US and settled in Michigan. Mom came over when she was sixteen. Any family left in either Poland on my Dad's side and Hungary on mom's side were murdered by the Nazis during the Holocaust. Dad's immediate family moved to the States when he was a young child. His father's brother was already here, Grandfather and his brother started a bakery. A portion of that part of the family still bakes. My Grandfather's sister came with her bro
