Messages between gramawgs and violetD
thanks for the good words. I know what you mean about sounding harsh. My handyguy's 98 yr. old grandmother is going fast now and we kind of talked about that. Miss them when theyre gone but glad they're not suffering. Old man here at least is good natured and not suffering. That is a tremendous positive. I think it would be so good so many ways if he'd just not wake up one morning. My mother went that way. She was alone so we don't know for sure but it seemed to be a good thing. We'd seen her 2 days earlier and nephew saw the day before and she was in good spirits. My brother's friends were killed in head on accident out on a road trip having a good time. Lucky I think. Think my time is up for the day. ta
Sorry to see you hurt yourself. Its so easy to trip over any small thing and can be so painful even with only bruises.
If you like, there are more pix taken at the party this one was of in my pix. some of grandkids, daughters etc.. Just in case you really really want to see more. Oh, and conga rats on fp yesterday. I saw after I closed this window.
I just said to mj that it would be nice if our pix could be enlarged so we could actually see. These old eyes miss so much anyway. I never saw such folding chairs in the hosp. Wonder if we have anything like that available when the need arises. When he was in I just went in the daytime and left late afternoon. About 20 minutes drive but still took a lot out of the days for those weeks. I'm trying to get a lot out of my house already because I know that my kids won't have the time or patience to do that final cleanout. also if I move with Janet we'll both have to get rid of a ton. I realized the need when we were cleaning out my parents' house. (1994) he died inSept. and we were aiming at putting her in assisted living. Nice place where she had friends but working on a 6 month basis as there was a waiting list. She didn't make it to Christmas, only through Thanksgiving but she was up and active then still and in good spirits. Just didn't wake up on Saturday. Really very good way to go.
Interesting that you perceived that she was leaving right then. I've never experienced that. Your daddy must be a really sweet man. Mine wasn't all that much and neither is my husband. Well, neither am I really. and I think I've conditioned myself over the years with various relationships not to hang on too tightly. D. was in hospital and rehab 7 weeks 5 years ago and I think I was pretty much resigned that he could go anytime. Mistakes were made in his care. Overall our family is not very emotional either so I'll be fine .
Thanks for your input and support. Maybe I hadn't fullly appreciated how good care my dad did too. Even though Ma was lucid always it was still good that he was on the job. Even when he was in hospital just before he died he was worrying about her meds. My brother made a schedule for her on the cupboard door in big print where she would see it easily and she was ok with it the rest of her 3 months.
oh, I ran out of space again. I'm much too gabby.
E.d is not only accepted but encouraged as far as I can tell. I've received a lot of helpful input this way and hope i've spread some on to others. You might indeed be a useful resource person. My husband had a bad concussion over 5 years ago. I was blaming his "dumb" on that but now realize it's also genetic. His older brother and sister are quite ditzy and the younger one is coming right along. He's 79 and has other problems like diabetes and heart failure that need to be treated so he needs to be watched. I have about 3 hours here daily when he's in front of tv and can leave for shopping for up to 2 hours without too much worry. Fortunately he's good natured. That would be a deal breaker. One of his very old friends got combative and had to be put in a care facility. I babble a lot, kind of sorting things out in my own mind as I go along. I was saying that my daughter seems to think it's that she is supposed to solve my problems but not actually. Things tend to fall in place in gene
