Competition? Yes, maybe, but I “iz it”, and “haz it”, which only seems to be compounding all the “silliness” around here. Red shirt? More a hazing, would-be designation by his “friends”, and not by his own requisition, maybe? But, you were half right about the ”living with parents”. He has two little girls, and they do, so he does, part time. But his problems have to do with a “late”, and not an “ex”. I think that the expectations this can cause are even as dangerous. And then, there is the culture clash, a wonderful opportunity to grow, sometimes, but not under this circumstance. I was just called an “unspoiled aristocrat” (the ‘why’, that ‘my parents would love you’), and am trying to take this the way that I “should”, and not the way that I “would have” from my origin. (the modifier, “unspoiled” helps, a little).