Congratulations to both of you! Was it his own valve that went out, or an earlier replacement? I'd heard that the replacement valves (both synthetic and from pigs) usually work quite well. Perhaps he'll have a longer time with you than you think. But if not, it's a small blessing that you know how precious your time is together. ++ Speaking of congratulations, I just saw your LOL about Tenderheart becoming a grandma! How many? When? Colors? Genders? How's Ebony? Inquiring minds want to know!!
Yes, long term depression. I didn't want to move in with the in-laws, but they had an agenda of living in the country and our money was a means to an end. Lot's of other life things made me sad and eventually led to loneliness. Loneliness led to depression. Tried SSRI's and hated how they made me feel. I tried to go cold turkey and ended up with brain zaps from that. Apparently I could have killed myself by doing that. Psychiatrist diagnosed me in my 40's with Aspergers but now that I am out and happier, I am not so sure anymore. Currently I am struggling with side effects of years of depression. Getting out, meeting people and trusting these people is the biggest hurdle. Her and her parents are great people, but they love to talk and can be overwhelming. After I separated, my family started telling me that they didn't want to visit because of how bad a situation I got myself in to and that they found her parents overwhelming. Funny how things come out after. I took all the responsibility for being sad and it has only been recently that I have allowed myself to think that there where a lot of things that I had no control of.
I hear ya on that. I haven't been happy since the great idea of buying an acreage with my in-laws happened ... 20 years ago. Feel like a moron for being sad for that long. Instead of moving she decided she didn't want to deal with me being sad anymore. In retrospect I am much happier since the separation, she seems to be and my daughter (19) likes that we are happier. Though she is not to happy about me asking for spouse support.
That is great news! Does this mean you have a little bit of respite? Served my ex with divorce papers today. Not sure how to feel. I didn't want the separation, but at the same time she was probably right about leaving.
Prayers and blessings to you and your dad! I'm glad you're not too worried. I'm sure your confidence will help calm him. I'll keep the Tom Jones reference in mind whenever I might have surgery again myself! ++ We had a squirrel at our house outside Chicago when I was little who would take peanut butter on a saltine right out of our hand. We'd find the saltine later, gummy and only nibbled a little bit, but with not a bit of PB left on it. :D ++ Nighty-night, sweet dreams, and best of luck. (((Hugs)))
Thank you! I see you faved ani.s4's GIF of the pit-stop chipmunk with seeds. Squee-dorable, every one of them. We didn't have them in eastern Kansas when I was growing up, but after I'd moved out of my folks' house they started seeing them in the back yard, would come right up to the sliding door. I was there with my at-the-time youngest cat after they'd passed away, cleaning out the house, and kitteh would go bananas over the "chit-munts" (her word, not mine). Lucky for them she's an indoor cat! ++ Your bill burning sounds like a very appropriate way to spend Summer Solstice, given it's the solar maximum sabbath. I'd never thought of burning mine. I probably keep them back longer than I need to, but my dad's "You never know when you might need it" mantra rings in my head every time I try to divest myself of them. I hope you toasted some marshmallows over the embers!
Good to hear you are taking care. Thoughts and prayers with you and the family. Glad about your election as well. I used to be a conservative until I grew up and started having adult thoughts and feelings. It was easy to be a kid and a Lougheed conservative, but then Mulroney, Reagan, Thatcher came along and bad touched the party. BC made me have more social values and did it without the use of pot. Extreme position in any direction make me automatically on alert.